starzout3 (submitted July 19, 2010)

Can someone give me some advice--suggestions?   My parents have been divorced for over 25 years(after being together for 20 years and having 3 children---my dad is remarried and his wife(who had no previous children) has never been too nice/understanding about our feelings or has she ever tried to get along with my mom. I could go on and on with examples. My mom's 2nd husband passed away and we spend a lot of time trying to keep her busy/ not so lonely! My cousins (my dad's side) have been inviting my mom to family functions(baby showers, birthdays, etc.) My mom was very close with my dad's side of the family since all my cousins were little--they like her a lot and they do not like my dad's wife at all---and now my dad says he is going to let my mom have it-tell her she shouldn't be there at family functions-it's not her family anymore.  I think that he should get some courage to stick up to his wife!   What do you think?  I know if my dad embarrasses or hurts my mom--my sister will not forgive him and deep down inside I won't either---I do understand the uncomfortable feelings that can come from this as I have a step daughter and no children of my own. How to make my stepmom and dad understand and deal with it in a proper Christian way!?   Thanks much for your help.