Name: Denise
Home state or country: Arkansas
I have only been
married for 7 months and ready to call it quits.
If I wasn't a
Christian I would of already quit. I know what God says about
divorce and I don't
know what to do. I am so unhappy. I am married to a
man that has a 6 year
old. He expects for me and my parents, when we have
kids together, to not
go to their school programs, games, etc and go to his
child's half of the
time. I do not agree with this. His child has a mom
and grandparents. Shouldn't
my children get to have their mom and
grandparents, my
parents, at their things???? Now, if there is not a
conflict then we can
go to his child's things. He keeps saying well you
should say he is
yours....that it is no different than when I have my own
kids. YES, it
is different his child doesn't call me mom, nor live with us.
IT IS DIFFERENT. I
feel like he feels so sorry for his child since he
doesn't have married
parents.
What do I do? I
want kids so bad, but don't want them brought into this.
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Denise-- You are right to worry about
bringing additional
children into your situation. It would be
a toxic environment for them. Your
husband is so fearful; his demands are
dripping with fear and guilt. You
must (emphasis on "must") seek
outside help from a qualified therapist.
Otherwise, you and your husband will
continue to battle about these issues.
Perhaps this article will help you find
someone who can help:
http://www.successfulstepfamilies.com/view/7.
God bless, RLD
